The main point of this post is to get rid of the fear of failure. This isn’t to say that you should try to purposely fail. It’s to get rid of the fear of trying. To realize that nothing bad really happens from messing up. There may be potential consequences to certain actions that you need to weigh, but generally, trying something and messing up doesn’t really sting that bad. It’ll sting worse wondering what if.
1) You’ll learn from the experience. If you’ve kept any sort of track of the process of the goal you were trying to accomplish that led you to failure, at the end of it, you will have come across something that you can learn from the experience.
2) You’ll live another day. There are exceptions to this rule of course, like if you fail at skydiving. For the most part, if you fail at playing an instrument, or fail at talking to that girl you like, the chances are you will be alive afterwards.
3) You will have a story to tell. After you fail at something you’ll probably have a funny or sad story to tell. If it’s funny people will laugh with you and think you’re hilarious, that’s always good. If it’s a sad story, they may feel pity for you and help you out, some people like that; people who don’t like pity won’t tell the story though. Or a third, people will gain some extra respect for you.
4) You will have tried. This is important. If this list was in a ranked order, this will probably be number 1. Seriously, just try, it’s not that big of a deal.
5) You will be prepared to fail in the future. This is relative to number 1. Fail once, twice, three times, the next few times won’t sting so bad. Chances are, that you’ll probably have some successes along the way as well.
6) You will have found other opportunities. I could list a bunch of inventions that were made by accident like the sticky note, but I’m not going to. Just look it up “inventions made on accident.” Maybe your goal is to have a billion dollars. If you really want to succeed at having a billion dollars, and go after it with all your effort, I’ll bet that you will find some opportunity along the way that is worthwhile.
7) You will guide your own life’s mission. Perhaps at first you think you want to fight whalers for a living. Upon failing at fighting off the whalers, you may discover that you don’t really care that much about just whalers, and what it really was is that you wanted to stand up against all animal cruelty. Well hey, you just helped guide your own vision. Yes whaling is more specific, maybe they wanted broader focus?
8) You will lose some fears. Not to say you will lose all of your fear. You will gradually become numb to fear of certain situations though. Maybe you won’t even lose the fear, but you’ll be able to at least overcome it. In that case, is it still even there? Is the butterflies in your stomach feeling really fear of something you can’t overcome? Or are they just nerves. Nerves that help you perform better?
9) Nothing. Sometimes if you try something, and you mess up, or fail, literally nothing will happen to you. You won’t learn anything, you won’t lose anything, you won’t gain anything. Hopefully you get something good out of it, but really there’s a chance nothing at all happens. No one notices, no one cares, you don’t even care and you’ll move on with your life.
10) Your peers, neighbors, and family will mock you endlessly causing you to lose everything you own, and any possibility of a successful future or even near-success while your parents disown you never to speak to you again causing you to not even be able to get a job as a janitor in a fast food restaurant owned by immigrants who don’t even care about your citizen ship, and despite being a citizen the government doesn’t even want to give you welfare or any possible opportunity to help you survive through your tough time. Ok this last problem probably won’t happen. Have a nice day.